Women, Men, sexuality: we cannot escape gender ever

First off, it is good to point out that there is a difference between trying to figure out the gender system of a historical time period via archaeology and trying to figure out the gender system of a song. Here, we are talking about songs. The work of figuring out gender via artefacts without writing is different.

Also, any gender system is not 'monolithic': it is not simply the way things are, much less what everyone in a society believes or enacts. There are always alternatives, exceptions, and dissenting voices. In this case, they are both from within the epics and from our sides looking in. We are interacting with the songs, and our own gender systems play a role in what we see: that does not make the enterprise wrong or a relativist space where anything goes: it makes things complex.

It seems relatively easy to say that all the warriors are males and are constructed as men, whereas Penelope, Andromache, Helen, Bryseis, Chryseis, Clytaemnestra, Nausicaa, etc. are females constructed as women, and to start from there to try to see what 'men' and 'women' are.

The preceding is mostly talking about what we see when we look into the epics. The epics themselves do not talk about these things explicitly.

But there are some ways they do address such things.

Much of what follows is inspired by and taken from Michael Clarke's 'Manhood and Heroism' from A Cambridge Companion to Homer, 2004.