BEFORE WE GET TO MORE ABOUT ETHICS AND VALUES IN THE HOMERIC EPICS, A BRIEF TRIP TO THE MIDDLE AGES VIA A MANUSCRIPT:
The Female Side of the Story: Ovid's Heroides
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hL7VmikZRbM)
Ovid: Roman author, wrote in Latin, 1st c. CE!
Wrote letters from the point of view of mythological women to their men.

Agency in the Epics

These matters are exceedingly complex and there is probably no single right answer to the many questions raised here: presenting, constructing, or explaining these things in a coherent and consistent way does not seem to be the primary concern of the epics (it is not a work of philosophy: it is above all a story, a medium which treats such things implicitly rather than explicitly and tolerates contradiction rather well). And yet, these are important questions, for they get at the root of the society, the individual, values, etc.

There is a lot of literature on this, many efforts to explain and analyze the epic values, ideas of responsibility, justice, etc.

And yet, the epics do not seem to be primarily concerned with such things: they play a big role, just as they do in any human narrative, but I don't really believe anyone who claims that these epics centrally problematize such matters or are centrally about them: we see/read that into them.



One Prevailing Notion of Homeric Heroic Ethics
I have taken this material rather directly from Terence Irwin's book Classical Thought, Oxford Univ. Press, 1989, which is a compendious and excellent introduction to ancient philosophy: it presents a picture in keeping with that of Adkins (1960). Although I have taken it from there, I do not think it is idiosyncratic or simply one side of a controversy. Much of this material is patently obvious and has been pointed out by many: that is appropriate for material intended to cover the basics.

An important note is that this is an ethical code that applies to males who have power.
There are other systems that one could perhaps construct for slaves, women, lower-than-ruler classes, and intersections of those, but I don't know where that has been done, and I imagine it would be more piecemeal, because the Iliad and Odyssey don't treat their worlds directly in the way they do the male nobility.