University of Vermont

Relationship Violence Warning Signs

We see some common red flags that exist in violent relationships. While one isolated incident may not indicate a problem, a pattern of incidences does. Contact the Campus Victim's Advocate at 656-7892 or if you'd like to get some support and guidance around what you or a friend are experiencing.

Ask yourself...

Do you see yourself or a friend in the following questions?

Are you in an abusive relationship?
  • Are you afraid of your partner or feel like you have to walk on eggshells to keep your partner from getting angry?
  • Has your partner every humiliated you with put downs or name calling?
  • Has your partner ever hit, slapped, pushed or restrained you?
  • Have you lost contact with many of your friends or family since you've been with your partner?
  • Have you stopped doing things or talking with certain people to keep your partner from getting jealous or angry?
  • Have you been forced by your partner to do something you didn't want to do?
Are you abusive in your relationship?
  • Is your partner afraid of you sometimes?
  • Are you very protective and jealous of your partner?
  • Have you ever threatened or punished your partner?
  • Do you check up on your partner's whereabouts frequently if you are not with that person?
  • Do you frequently "tease" your partner about their weaknesses either in public or private?
  • Have you ever thrown things or hit walls during an argument with your partner?

If you answered "yes" to one or more of the questions, you may be in an abusive relationship or you may use abusive tactics in your relationship. It's important to talk with an advocate or professional about your concerns. Call or write the Campus Victim's Advocate for an appointment or referral at 656-7892 or

Last modified August 22 2013 03:42 PM