Demanding students can be difficult to interact with because they can be intrusive and persistent. Demanding traits can be associated with anxiety, agitated depression and/or personality disorders, but also occur in the general population. Some features associated with demanding students are a sense of entitlement; an inability to empathize; a need to control; difficulty dealing with ambiguity; a strong drive for perfection; difficulty respecting structure, limits, and rules; persistence after hearing “no”; dependence on others to take care of them; and a fear of dealing with the realities of life. These students may demand a lot of time and attention. When dealing with a demanding student:
- When possible, talk to the student in a place where you feel comfortable and safe.
- Remain calm and in control of the situation.
- Set clear limits and hold to them.
- Directly and clearly explain to the student the behaviors which are acceptable and unacceptable.
- Be clear about the time you will give to the student.
- Request that they treat you with respect.
- Address and contain the disruptive behavior that impacts the class, study groups, etc.
- Be aware of manipulative behavior.
- Refer student to resources that can address their needs.
- Contact the Center for Student Ethics and Standards (656-4360) to report disruptive behavior, which can include harassment and intimidation.
- Contact THe Wellness Program for assistance if you are feeling personally impacted (800-828-6025)
- Contact the Office of Affirmative Action/Equal Opportunity (800-656-3368) if you are feeling harassed and it has a sexual or gender related harassment to it.
- Argue with the student
- Accommodate inappropriate requests.
- Ignore the problem and the impact it has in you and other students, staff, or faculty.
Resources at UVM
|Affirmative Action and Equal Opportunity||(802) 656-3368|
|Counseling & Psychiatry Services||(802) 656-3340|
|Dean of Students Office||(802) 656-3380|
|Police Services||(802) 656-3473|
|Women's Center||(802) 656-7892|
|Personal Safety & Security Policy|
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